Arielle Scarcella is someone who I’ve enjoyed following on youtube as well as facebook. I’ve always appreciated her insight on things.
That is, until today.
Arielle went into detail talking about her body, and her experience as a cis woman with boobs. I’m all for women talking about their bodies—its super important! Remember, I’m a fucking feminist. Women shouldn’t be told that their parts aren’t up for discussion, because they totally should be! But then she got this ask.
All this guy was trying to say was “generalizing boobs as feminine/feminism causes me and many other trans/nonbinary people dysphoria, can you please not generalize all boobs as feminine?” And somehow that’s policing her.
Just an FYI, that is NOT policing.
This is an example of what policing looks like: “I don’t want to hear about your lady parts” or “No one wants to hear about your lady parts so STFU”
Arielle can definitely say something along the lines of “my boobs are a symbol of my femininity and what feminism means to me”. That’s cool, its her belief and she has every right to it. And its fine she made a simple mistake, as long as she apologizes, corrects it, and learns from it. (And btw, she does none of those things.)
Giving people a heads up about what she’s going to talk about isn’t policing. Its just having consideration for her vast demographic of viewers. For christ sake, she’s even collaborated with FTMs in order to educate cis people on dysphoria! She KNOWS.
An example of what she could’ve said before her discussion about her boobs and what they mean to her:
"Hey just a heads up for anyone who experiences dysphoria, I’m going to be talking about my body and what it means to me!”
That would have been VERY sufficient. This way she would be able to speak her mind without causing people painful dysphoria by generalizing all breasts.
Unfortunately, Arielle went on to say even more disappointing things.
No one is saying how she should talk about her body! NO ONE. Just fucking warn people and let them know its your opinion about yourself! The fact that she went on to say “YOU’RE POLICING ME!! MALE PRIVILEGE!!” is incredibly GROSS and transmisogynistic.
So, cis women or trans women with top dysphoria, who ask for her to warn them ahead of time are policing her with their male privilege?
And all this shit about “FEMININE isn’t an opinion or identity! Its a BIOLOGICAL thing!” WOW. Where do you get off?
Femininity and Masculinity, the combination of the two, or the lack of either are ALL identities and opinions, unique to the person experiencing them. How DARE you tell someone that their femininity is only achieved through genetics! Do you know how offensive that is to trans women? Or really ANYONE who identifies as feminine? Maybe even masculine cis women? HOW CRUEL.
This is IN FACT policing other people’s bodies and identities. You’re contradicting yourself Arielle!
Then she had the fucking GALL to post something written by a binarist truscum.
WHO ARE YOU AS A CIS PERSON to police people on their transgenderedness? WHO ARE YOU to police other people’s bodies and identities? WHO ARE YOU to ignore the voices of your viewers? WHO ARE YOU to accuse people who are asking you to warn them before reading content in order to protect their mental health of policing you with their male privilege? WHO ARE YOU to deny my identity, that I’ve worked HARD to recognize and accept?
Just another cissexist, transphobic, binarist, ignorant, bigotted member of the MOGAI community. Yawn. Unfollowed.